A part of one dies daily when you are not loved in return by your crush. Your best bet is to pray for Cupid’s arrow to hit the bull’s eye, his heart. Or you could just make your move like a game of chess but what if he’s not just seeing you in the same light? How do you know for sure? Guys uninterested in relationships usually drop obvious signs but in cases where such isn’t the norm, watch for signs showing that he doesn’t take you seriously. Naturally, men are aggressive towards their goals. If you’re his goal, he will make it known to you unless he’s the shy type. But what if shyness isn’t the issue and he really doesn’t want a relationship with you? How can you tell? That’s why you’re here, isn’t it? Let’s cut to the chase if he doesn’t want a relationship with you, here are the signs:
HE PREFERS HIS FRIENDS COMPANY TO YOURS
There’s an aura of a special bond whenever you see a group of guys and from to time, men seek succor from close friends. The man of dreams will always want to drown you in attention, which means he’ll cherish every moment spent with you. He’s no robot to be always available to your beck and call. Sometimes, he’ll have to spend quality time with the boys. Talk about drinking, sports watching, and some exciting violence on Call of Duty. DEFCON1 springs up when the balance tips towards him spending more time with his friends than you. If you have to always contact his friends for his whereabouts then just like the Hollywood hit movie, just know that He’s Not Just That Into You.
HE NEVER TALKS TO YOU ABOUT HIS PLANS FOR THE FUTURE
Some guys can be secretive, hatching amazing plans in the shadows and surprising you eventually. In other cases, you just never know your worth in his life. No man should make a lady feel as such but this is not a fantasy life from the enticing world of Nora Robert books. This is reality. If he never discusses his plans, talk less of including you in it, that’s not the type of person you should envisage a future with.
HE DOESN’T SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOU
A key ingredient of any successful relationship has to be the amount of time they sacrifice to be with each other. He’s busy? That’s the default excuse. No one is that busy not to have some spare time, not even soldiers. Being distant from a loved ones breeds nothing but blues especially if your partner doesn’t even feel the same. To the extent that the friendly ghost Casper’s existence feels even more real than his presence in your life. It’s so bad that the NBA season had started and ended since the last time you went on fun dates or even home dates. You can force the horse to the stream but you can’t make it drink water right? You can relate with him but a relationship is something that best happens naturally, think of a beautiful sunflower opening up for pollination.
HE DOESN’T CARE ABOUT YOUR NEEDS
When in love, humans have zero control over certain emotions and actions. Pupils dilate, voice changes and other body language signals. When one feels affection for another person, there’s this burning desire to always see such a person happy at all times. Like the ying and yang, your emotions merge into one. He will be willing to put a huge smile on your face by trying to take care of some of your needs. If it’s love he’ll often go the extra mile to attend to your needs. This character shows selflessness as he’ll invest his energy and time into taking good care of you.
HE’S JUST DISTANT WITH YOU IN EVERYTHING
So you haven’t gotten a reply to that text since last week? Be rest assured that he hasn’t been abducted by aliens, this is just an innuendo about the relationship he has with you. Chatting with the man of your dreams should be exciting. Emojis, inner jokes, and sarcasm here and there. Thus, when texting or calls to your crush starts to feel like a depressing chore even, it’s time to jump ship. In other aspects, he could exhibit signs that show that you just don’t tickle his fancy. These include not introducing his friends or family to you and having divided attention when you’re together.
Having a long-term commitment is no easy task, it’s not something you rush into. Take your time and ensure that both of you are operating on the same frequency of love before taking a shot. An unreliable and distant partner is an awesome recipe for a relationship disaster. With the aforementioned signs, the game of love will most likely favor you.